As I was marching around in the bushy area of our backyard this weekend, full of thistles and smelling like campfire, I got to thinking about womanhood. I got to thinking about the things I like about being female. The things my mom taught me. The things I want to teach our daughters. The experiences I’d like them to have, the challenges I’d like them to overcome, the mistakes I’ve made that hope they don’t. The things I want them to learn.
I am probably failing miserably at teaching some of these things…but they are goals. They are something to strive for. This is little more than a digital-mental list of things I think are important for our growing beauties.
- Teach her compassion and empathy {by example}
- Teach her about nature {and how to take care of it}
- Teach her that it’s cool to be smart {Even if she doesn’t believe you}
- Tell her she’s beautiful {while she’s in her jammies}
- Teach her about life…and death {Her goldfish didn’t run away}
- Teach her to be strong in her morals and beliefs {no matter what “they” say}
- Teach her to build a fire, change a flat and make a speech
- Show her how to dress up {Think class, not cleavage}
- Teach her to pray and love and put others first
- Teach her that she is complete {without her friends or boyfriend or peers}
- Show her the world {even if it’s via YouTube}
- Teach the importance of family {blood-related or not}
- Let her exercise her independence {regardless of how it pains you}
- Teach her to be a friend {especially to the one who needs a friend most}
- Encourage her questions {and strive to answer them all}
- Teach her about bugs and plants and animals {Even if you don’t like them}
- Show her what hard work looks like {and how to get and keep a job}
- Teach her about the awkward & uncomfortable {before someone else does}
- Value her opinions {And teach her to value those of others}
- Teach her to manage her money {and not let it manager her}
- Let her experience the joy of true giving
- Teach her tolerance and forgiveness
- Teach her to have adventures {everywhere she goes}
- Let her cry when she needs to {and let her see you cry too}
- Teach her to eat healthfully {but not obsessively}
- Let her be a princess {and a pirate and a giraffe}
- Make her feel loved {over and over and over}
- Show her how it feels to earn something {and that the world owes her nothing}
- Teach her to ride a bike and build a resume and paint her toenails
- Show her what initiative looks like
- Encourage her to think outside the box
- Help her find a love for books {or blogs or anything word-related}
- Let her get dirty and muddy and crazy and fun
- Teach her about her heritage {and to be proud of her roots}
- Teach her that there’s so much more to life than high school {even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time}
- Teach her manners and respect {for herself, her body and everyone around her}
There is more. So much more. But I’ll leave it with you….what would you add? What do you think is important for a girl to know?